I was watching It’s Showtime, a local noontime variety show in the Philippines, last Thursday to check that day’s Magpasikat performance. Magpasikat is the show’s annual entertainment contest for the hosts, and I watched some of their performances in the past and I was curious what the hosts prepared this year. Last Thursday was comedians Vice Ganda and Ryan Bang’s turn to perform and they prepared an original song written and composed by Vice Ganda and arranged by Gerard Salonga. There were three judges for this year’s Magpasikat, each of which has to comment on and score the performances.
The song was about how we may be different in one way or another, but are equal in the eyes of our Creator. It tells us about how easy it is for us to judge others even without knowing the person’s story or understanding his/her background. It touched most of the viewers (if not all) and it certainly touched the judges. The message of the song, they said, showed a part of Vice Ganda’s heart that was never before known to the people.
I was trying to contain my tears as I was watching with my mom and a younger guy cousin. I didn’t want my cousin to see me cry because I’m sure he would tease me. But when the last judge, Cherie Gil, said her comments, I couldn’t contain it anymore.
Apparently, Cherie always wondered what Vice has that captured many viewers. She never met the comedian before and maybe only see a couple of bad comments or articles about him online or on tv. More than a year ago, she expressed her negative opinion on Vice on twitter. Last Thursday, she met Vice for the first time, saw her performance and heard her song, and had a real glimpse of how Vice is as a person. She realized that a lot of her opinion on the comedian before was wrong, and she apologized.
It’s always easy to judge. It’s easy to say what we think about other people and claim that everyone’s entitled to their own opinion. But the moment we realize we are wrong, we may already have said or done hurtful things.
Cherie is one of the biggest stars here in the Philippines and she built her name long before Vice did. And more often, people like that find it harder to admit mistakes, humble themselves and apologize. She’s a star, she’s famous. It’s scary enough to admit your wrongs to one person, let alone admit it and apologize for it in national television. I really admire her for that. I admire her because however big of a star she is, she humbled herself, owned up to her mistake, took responsibility of what she said, and apologized the moment she realized she was wrong. I really felt her sincerity.
I think more people should be like that. The world needs people like that. Own up to your mistakes, take responsibility, do what you think is right and don’t let pride get in the way, say sorry for things you really are sorry for, be sincere. Sometimes, it seems easier to shut up, even if we already realized we’re wrong, and try to get away with it. But, we don’t learn by getting away with things. We learn by taking responsibility of our actions. We learn by being mindful of what we do, what we did wrong and what me must change in the future to get better. We learn by accepting that we are not perfect, we are bound to make mistakes from time to time, but remembering that we can always improve ourselves and must be mindful not to make the same mistake again in the future.
What harm could saying “sorry” do to us anyway? Why are we so afraid to say it? If anything, it could only do us good. If we realize we did something wrong and apologize for it, the other person could only either accept it or not. And if he or she doesn’t, at least we tried to apologize and did our part, we can then move on and remind ourselves of what we learned from the experience. But if he or she does, wouldn’t that make us feel better and relieved?